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  1. new theme
    Wednesday, April 02, 2014
  2. new theme
    Wednesday, April 02, 2014
  3. inner smile
    Wednesday, April 02, 2014
  4. creating a space
    Friday, March 14, 2014
  5. job and autism
    Friday, March 14, 2014
  6. sharing with you
    Monday, March 03, 2014
  7. staying positive to see the possibly of life
    Monday, March 03, 2014
  8. job
    Monday, March 03, 2014
  9. new wings writed dec 7
    Saturday, December 21, 2013
  10. finding that sacred space
    Saturday, December 21, 2013

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new theme

Today starts I new theme in the blog i going to talk about how something things don;t go as we planed and what do to when that happen we are going to weave in the theme of hurt and it really effects us. it should be interesting. i was having a converstion with someone today about this idea and it came to me that i have a lot to share about. when i first found out I had autism , i was happy but then I when thought a time when deep down i didn;t really like myself i though I was a mistake, i though why was i created, why i am I here, and so on. i at some point though I was plauge on my family, i did why was born, i not normal so and so. I came to place I not like that any more but i see as girft but thoes who are hurting out there i relate big time so please be good to your self to day thanks

new theme

Today starts I new theme in the blog i going to talk about how something things don;t go as we planed and what do to when that happen we are going to weave in the theme of hurt and it really effects us. it should be interesting. i was having a converstion with someone today about this idea and it came to me that i have a lot to share about. when i first found out I had autism , i was happy but then I when thought a time when deep down i didn;t really like myself i though I was a mistake, i though why was i created, why i am I here, and so on. i at some point though I was plauge on my family, i did why was born, i not normal so and so. I came to place I not like that any more but i see as girft but thoes who are hurting out there i relate big time so please be good to your self to day thanks

inner smile

so we are going to talk more about how we affect others.  If we are negative, people will be negative; if we are positive, then people will be positive.  If we give a smile, we get a smile. 

As I said last time, I am working on finding that inner smile that I know is in me.  I know I have positive effects on people, but lately the negative side of me has been coming out.  I’m letting myself heal from my past trauma, which I’m not sure what exactly it is.  However, I know that I am allowing it to come out, and that it’s going to be interesting.  Feelings are going to come up, but yet there is a voice in the back of my head that tells me I am doing it all wrong.  That I will have people judge me for everything.  That’s how my head works.  Weird isn’t?

I’m a happy person on the outside who is slowly learning how to do deal with the inner shame that I have put on myself.  It’s not easy to work through, but I am lucky to have a good support network: people who are there for me.  I am slowly coming out of a fog that is so thick that I never thought I would be able to come out of it ever.  I see that I took all of that hurt and stuffed it down instead of talking about it and dealing with it.  Now it’s so deep, that it’s going to take a while to come up, but I am happy to know that it’s there.  

How I affect people is by overcoming things with my story and making changes to affect myself for the better.  You see, I lost this.  The ideal is not to change for others; I need to do this for me. I need to shine that inner light so that I can be a beacon of hope for others, but I see there is a balance.  I also need to stop worrying about others and outside stuff and take some time to breath and work on me.  I still can care for others and be there for them, but I see that I could block their own journey.  So, it’s better to sit back and relax and enjoy the show. 

Thanks


creating a space

So we are talking about creating a space in which to express ourselves and share with others. Not everything, some things we need to find a safe person to share with. 
I feel that I have been walking this path, sharing myself with others, is what they will think. I think they will say or act they will. It’s very different than what happens always. Reactions are funny things. We work so hard to get hurt; I know i did. I would share myself knowing I would get hurt. Interesting, huh? And yet I keep going back to the same place. Now I see that a lot of healing can happen when you find that space and trust yourself that you will be healed. It’s all a change that happens in you. 
I know some say that others can help you change; they can, but it starts in you. You have the willing to change and shine your light. I have seen that in my journey to find my inner smile. It’s been a long road, yet it has been fun. I have found my smile and my voice that have always been inside of me. I just need to tap into it. Lately, fear has over taken me because I am not sure where this blog is heading or where i going with all this stuff. However, I know that I have to tap into myself to find the true me in which to express who and what I am—human and alive. I must be alive in myself to enjoy who and what I am going to become in life. We must grow in order to be in one with ourselves and others.
Thanks.

job and autism

Today, we are going to continue on the topic of staying positive and how it brings results. 
I am going to talk about my job today. I’ve been there 8 years. When I first started working there, I had no idea of how to bag groceries or to talk to customers. The other day I got my job review and I need to work on it more, but it’s cool. It gives me something to do, and I love my job a lot. I complain about it sometimes, too much I think; but I know that is just the negative thoughts trying to come up and ruin it for me. I have learned to trust my coworkers; now I need to work that with the customers. I like the fact that I was able to honest with my boss about some of the challenges that I am facing with this area of always being happy. My job has given me a boost in my social skills; I had them before but never an outlet for how to work on them. It has also given me a place to work on my body language. I need to lean to let go of my anger at work and be more flexible, which not easy for me. 
The one piece of advice I would give people with autism or anyone else is to work on body your language—how you show yourself to the public as someone they want to talk to. I sometimes come off as not being a happy person. I know I need to work on that, and I am. It was a tough balance for me to deal with making them happy. I learn that i am not going to make them happy, but I can make their day better by being a shining my light and showing them my smile. I see that by showing the real me, they will get to know me better and trust me in the end.
Thank you.

sharing with you

new blog post yay

I wanted to share with you guys today. People have wondered how I made the changes in my life. I have made them by finding the power within me to make them happen. I say that a lot, I know, but it’s an idea which needs to be explained a lot. Today, I know that I have the power with me to be a mentor and to let others care for me. I used to want to be friends with people who needed me—I liked that; however, what I saw as the motive was really selfishness. I just wanted the glory of “look at me look at me, I need this fame and this moment.” 

Now I can help myself and find what I am looking for inside of me. I found the idea that I don’t need to be in public lime light; I just need to be me. This blog is my life, my story, how I am now in the moment. I am scared to share that with you guys sometimes, but now I see that I can’t live on what anyone thinks or judges me. It my life, and I must live it to the fullest on this path I am not sure of. 

The path of this blog is unknown, but that’s fun part of it. I get to share my fear with you guys, so let’s start the New Year with a new idea. I want to hear you guys’ stories. That’s right, your stories. You don’t need to post them. If you feel safer, you can send them to my inbox. I want to see the hope of you and your children. Then maybe you can see the hope and we can share the light of hope together.

Thanks.

staying positive to see the possibly of life

new Post 

Today, I am going to talk about staying positive so that you can see the possibly of life.I am going to start this post with a story. 
When I first got to where I am now, I had no place to do my laundry; I took a bus to do my laundry, and that brought out a lot of fear in me because I wasn’t sure how well it would go and stuff went through my head: what if I miss the bus, I can’t do both laundry and food shopping. I found out the bus route. Transporting the stuff from one place to another also became an issue. I got nervous about how I was going to do this and worried if I would have the time as buses around here don’t run very much. 
After many talks with my mentor, I bought me a shopping cart which I used to transport all my stuff from my house to the laundry place. The first time I did this I was scared, but it worked. Both the food and clothes fit, and my timing with the bus worked great. I was so proud of myself. 
I now live in a place that has a washer and dryer. I still have the cart to remind of me of where I started. I had to buy it in order to have the courage to rent the place I have now. By staying positive, I was able to do a lot. 
I want to share another. I have been at my job for 8 years. I have learned by staying positive that I have to be social and I like being around people. I used to be really shy around people. I still have to work on being social, but I am worlds better than I was. I feel better that I can go to work and be around people and listen—really listen—to what they say. I see all of what I share as a gift of overcoming my fears of life and change. I don’t fight it anymore. Now, I just trust that it will all work out in the end. 
Today, I see that if I focus on the stuff I love, like my art and my creative projects, that I will be happy. I will be able to stay positive and keep on going because anything is possible when you stay positive. 
That’s it for now. Thanks.

job

Today, we are going to continue on the topic of staying positive and how it brings results.  

I am going to talk about my job today.  I’ve been there 8 years.  When I first started working there, I had no idea of how to bag groceries or to talk to customers.  The other day I got my job review and I need to work on it more, but it’s cool.  It gives me something to do, and I love my job a lot.  I complain about it sometimes, too much I think; but I know that is just the negative thoughts trying to come up and ruin it for me.  I have learned to trust my coworkers; now I need to work that with the customers.  I like the fact that I was able to honest with my boss about some of the challenges that I am facing with this area of always being happy.  My job has given me a boost in my social skills; I had them before but never an outlet for how to work on them.  It has also given me a place to work on my body language.  I need to lean to let go of my anger at work and be more flexible, which not easy for me.  

The one piece of advice I would give people with autism or anyone else is to work on body your language—how you show yourself to the public as someone they want to talk to.  I sometimes come off as not being a happy person.  I know I need to work on that, and I am.  It was a tough balance for me to deal with making them happy.  I learn that i am not going to make them happy, but I can make their day better by being a shining my light and showing them my smile.  I see that by showing the real me, they will get to know me better and trust me in the end.

Thank you.


new wings writed dec 7

a new blog post called new wings enjoy 

So, what do we do when the voices in our heads tell us not to live our dreams but the serene silence within us says we should? That was a tough one for me because I never knew what to do; I was told one thing, but i kept on believing the lie. 

What changed for me? It was that I started to see the fruit of my labors and how I was affecting people by blogging and doing videos. I planted the seeds that awoke me to what was important and what wasn’t. A light came on inside of me, and I saw what I was doing to myself. I didn’t like what I saw at all. It still scares me today. I was like a prisoner in my own head. I followed a beast whose job was to bring me down at all cost. It wanted me to stay the way I was and not change the world. I didn’t want to live that way anymore. 

I knew that I could be a shining light in this world. I went on retreats and read a lot of books, but I had to be willing to make those changes myself. I had to awaken myself to the creator inside of me. I needed to walk down the road that I didn’t trust; I needed to be scared and not know what was going to happen. I had to be guided and see that this path I am on now is the road that I need to be on for now and that’s all that matters. I cannot worry about the future at all. It’s not important to me or nor should I worry about it. Today is all that matters. Today is when the change happens and when I have another awaking to the new me. Every day I am growing new wings to continue the journey to find the true me. 

Thanks again.

finding that sacred space

Today we will talk about sacred space.  


We have been on the theme of finding that quiet place to say “I want to me.”  I felt down a few months when I realized that I never really had a place to share the real me.  It’s weird to say, and do I feel that I have been hiding from the world the truth of whom and what I am.  


So, I am going to make a real change.  I see my life unfolding; that I had to do what I did because I found my space and now I sense it.  I will heal in that space.  I always knew in my heart that I needed that space, but I never knew that it was inside of me and I could tap into it at any time.  


What changed for me?  I realized the pain that I was in—and am still in now.  I used to think that it was all a bad thing; however, now I see it as a gift that is helping me learn who I am.  The pain that I am dealing with is really teaching me to go deeper in my soul and figure my life out.  For so long, I let the outside world affect and guide me.  I still do because there is good out there.  Although when it overtakes who and what i am going to be, that is not healthy.  There is no freedom there.  I can’t live in a place where I can’t be free to be me.  That’s why my finding that space be me allows there to be healing.  


For so many years, it was a place of shame and guilt where I would beat myself up on the inside, but today I see that place as a source of healing.  It still takes time to teach an old dog a new trick.  Even though I still fall to the old ways, I am starting to trust more, and that helps a lot.  It also helps to see that no one can change or invade my space; it is mine and I can be there as long and often as I need and want to.  The only rules are that it is created to be a place of healing, and beating myself up is not allowed.  So that’s what’s new for me.  All the transition from the old ways to the new takes time; it has to be done one day at a time.  I can only handle what I can deal with today, that’s it. 


Thanks for listening.


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